WHAT IS A MOTHERS BLESSING/ BLESSINGWAY?
A Blessingway is a sacred pre-birth ceremony that has traditionally been performed by Navajo people (native American), and celebrates a woman’s rite of passage into motherhood. The westernized version of this is the ‘Mother’s Blessing’ which is the term I will use out of respect of the tradition.
In recent times, this beautiful ritual has been adapted as an alternative to Baby Showers, where the focus tends to be more on the gifts and the baby, rather than on the Mother and her experience. A Mother’s Blessing puts the focus back on nurturing the woman. A woman’s close friends gather to build up her mind, body, and soul in preparation for her journey to motherhood. It is intended that the mother-to-be will leave bursting full of love, strength, confidence, and belief in the ability of her body to birth her baby.
So it is all about nurturing the mother and filling her with confidence as she awaits the impending birth of her baby. There is nothing like a circle of woman to get that delicious hormone oxytocin flowing, which is essential in birth. We will be cultivating positive energy for this upcoming birth experience.
I offer tailor made packages for mothers to be
I can have as much involvement as they wish from full involvement such as contacting the friends, leading the entire ceremony, food preparation, booking all aspect. Or I can just offer my services in leading the ceremony.
General package of Full Lead Ceremony (2hours)
– 30-45 min pregnancy yoga: £25
– Beautiful Barn Studio Venue Hire: £100 (based in Congleton, Cheshire)
– Sound journey (relaxation using crystal bowls & singing bowls) £30
– 20-30 min Indian head massage for mother to be: £20
– Deep Relaxation with Hypnobirthing techniques: £15
– 100% natural henna artist for detailed henna on bump & on hands/feet of friends: £100
– Homemade Food & Drink
– Homemade Gift Bags (filled with essential oil infused skincare, crystals, candles, keepsakes..)
1: In the comfort of your own home/ desired space.
2: A beautiful barn conversion & studio space nestled in the countryside (Congleton, Cheshire). It has a woodland, pond, onsite labyrinth to walk, eco pods & feng shui influenced gardens. The perfect setting for all to switch off.
Here are five examples of some of the activities that take place in the mother’s blessing (general package) I offer:
Creating a birth necklace
Each woman brings a special bead to the Blessingway. They sit in a circle and one by one, offer their bead to the expectant mother along with a blessing for her birth and experience as a mother.
The blessing can be in the form of a poem, a prayer, words of wisdom, or a simple wish. The beads are then strung together into a necklace or bracelet, so that the mother-to-be can wear or have nearby while she is in labor.
Women who are unable to be physically present for the Blessingway, such as a grandmother or close friend living far away, may want to send a bead and a blessing ahead of time.
The beads serve as a physical reminder of the support of trusted women in her life, so that she may call upon this strength during labor.
Connecting with the string ceremony
A spool of string or yarn is wrapped around each woman’s wrist while everyone sits in a circle. The women then cut individual pieces of the string and tie it around their wrists into a bracelet, to wear until the expectant mother goes into labor. When labor begins, the attendants at the Blessingway are notified by phone or text. They then cut the string on their wrists and say a prayer for the woman’s safe, easy and joyful birth. Until the birth, the women who wear the string bracelet are to keep the expectant woman in their thoughts and prayers.
Making birth art
An art project is a fun way to celebrate the upcoming birth experience. Simple craft materials can be used to create pictures, painted rocks, prayer flags, or other pieces of art with inspiring images and messages. In the days leading up to birth, the mother can look to these little pieces of art for faith and reassurance.
The group may want to collaborate and create a birthing vision board, or sew together squares for a quilt for the new baby.
The expectant mother can also place the art in her birthing space, where she can look at it during labor to help soothe her.
Pampering the mother
The Blessingway is a special time for the expectant mother to feel completely pampered and nurtured, filling her emotional cup to the brim so that she is as rejuvenated, relaxed and rejoiced as possible, before going into her labor.
She can sit in a decorated chair while her feet are bathed in a large bowl of warm water and fragrant flowers. Her friends can massage her shoulders, hands and feet; braid flowers into her hair…
Decorating the belly
Body paint or henna can be used to adorn the woman’s belly, helping her feel celebrated and beautiful. Some women also enjoy creating a belly cast, a plaster cast of her pregnant torso, which can be decorated and displayed as art after it dries.
The Blessingway usually ends with sharing nourishing food and drink, and can also include welcoming the father into the circle. Singing, belly dancing and sharing birth stories, are other fun activities to include in the celebration.
As a parting gift, Blessingway attendants may be given a candle to light when they receive the notification that labor has begun.
Every single ceremony is different and each one is tailored to the mothers desires and what she would like to gain from it. I truly believe every woman deserves to be celebrated and honoured as she walks the rite of passage into Motherhood. Through honouring the Mother and her baby, this is extremely powerful.
I truly hope that women recognize the beauty in blessing the mum and the baby and that it continues strongly in the tradition amongst women.
If you would me to facilitate a blessingway ceremony or Mother Blessing, please connect with me at firstname.lastname@example.org
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